#89 Brian Choi Talks About Social Anxiety & Building Confidence

00:00 Introducing Brian Choi

 

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01:40 Brian speaks on social anxiety and how its origins were deeply rooted into his high school experience. “The thought of approaching someone and having a conversation with them can feel crippling”. Fear of rejection only perpetuates the fear. Sean briefly touches on online interaction, dating, and getting to know people virtually.

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06:10 Overcoming pressure of first impressions, getting out of your own way, defeating self-doubt and talking to pretty women are discussed. There are genetic implications with social anxiety and we’re all hard-wired to experience it to a certain degree.

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09:00 Brian mentions the severity of social conditioning and the negative emotions of inferiority that are embedded in us at a young age. Drawbacks with socialization could potentially be a life-long struggle and usually requires seeking out help. Brian urges listeners to help introverts in structuring a positive reality around them. The phrase “crabs in a bucket” is correlated to unhealthy social environments as it relates to social anxiety. Sean reveals he is a crabbing connoisseur. The pervasiveness of cultural expectations, especially in Korean culture, and the pressures that come with it are pointed out. Sean shows familiarity with K-Pop, explains his perspective odds of sleeping with a woman, and puts it into a business philosophy. “Don’t be cheesy”.

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15:00 How do you add value to social interactions with women? Authenticity is key and social media’s contradictory highlight reels only showcase achievements, but suppress failures. The importance of experiencing mistakes first-hand and translating them into later success is emphasized.

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20:20 Everyone struggles with social anxiety and realizing you’re not alone is part of the battle. If you’re having difficulties would you rather hear motivational stories or see concrete evidence of success? Sean ties in fighting addiction with social anxiety and how the effects on your thought processes can be similar. For both, it is imperative that you set your intentions, persevere through inevitable hardships until you see results, and convert what you learn into a lifestyle.

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34:55 Michael elaborates on the two choices he believes you have when seeking mentorship and weighs the elements of time and money. He also explains the paradigm of money and happiness. Sean discusses his podcasting and business experiences with adversity, setting priorities, maintaining an appropriate workload, and all of the hidden intricacies you only uncover after you start.

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44:00 Sean reveals his time management strategies, distinguishing between hobbies and passions, adversity you face when mastering your craft, and all the hard work that goes unnoticed. He also spotlights the idealization of profiting off your passion and touches on different business personality types.

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47:30 Micheal gets into the reticular activating system (RAS) and the role it plays in our brains. He then dives deep into the immense significance of skewing your priorities and perspectives to tailor them towards manifesting your ultimate goals.

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51:40 Visualizing your intentions, being outspoken about them and preparing a backup plan(s) is Micahel’s next point of emphasis. He firmly believes that defining exactly what you want and comprehensively mapping it out in your head will give meaning to it. Sean seamlessly answers a Space Needle trivia question accurately.

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56:00 Sean commands his dog to lay down after a bark interrupts the stream. Micheal Choi offers his help to people with social anxiety.

Here is where you can contact him:

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You can find Brian here:

facebook.com/brianchoiofficial (link)

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brian@socialcirclesecrets.com (link)

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